Dear Embodied Feminine, I love it when you choose to visit me. I feel a stir deep inside of me the moment you walk into the room. It is like a part of me lights up every time I experience you, speak with you and spend time with you. There is something about your presence... Continue Reading →
Three letters from Teddy
There is a story many years ago of an elementary teacher. Her name was Mrs. Thompson. And as she stood in front of her 5th grade class on the very first day of school, she told the children a lie. Like most teachers, she looked at her students and said that she loved them all... Continue Reading →
I’ve never told anyone about this before…
"I've never told anyone about this before..." I hear this line often when people come to speak to me in the therapy room. And I hear them say those words with a lot of trepidation, and nervousness. Over the years, I have come to realise that there is a lot hidden in this one statement... Continue Reading →
I am not traumatised!
"My parents beat me up as a child, but I am not traumatized," said the man whose ex-partner reported him for physical violence. "When I was a child they left me alone, crying, until I fell asleep. I was not allowed to go out at all," said the man who as an adult spends long... Continue Reading →
Erectile Dysfunction
Question : I am a 22 year old boy. And I have just started dating someone. We have tried to get intimate a few times and unfortunately I was not able to have an erection when it was time. I am quite worried I have Erectile Dysfunction. And I am quite embarrassed about this. I... Continue Reading →
Embracing Loneliness – Part 1
NOTE : The following is an excerpt from the talks of Osho. This piece was originally posted in the online magazine "Osho World, March 2010 edition". (click to see original post) Question : Should one first come to terms with one's own loneliness before entering into a relationship? Answer : Yes, you have to come... Continue Reading →
I crave sex, and yet I do not…
Question : I often feel like I crave a lot of sex, and yet at the thought of indulging in a lot of sex, I realise I do not actually crave sex in the first place. I am an artist. I have been into theatre, acting and dance for some years now. And this weird conflict... Continue Reading →
Your Sacred Boundaries
There are some aspects of your life that are Sacred. The dictionary defines the word "Sacred" as "something that is holy and deserving respect; too important to be changed; something connected with Divinity" I often meet people who spend large amounts of energy in trying to deal with opinions, suggestions and solutions. These opinions and... Continue Reading →
I Am Not Good Enough!
A lot of people deeply believe that they are not good enough. "I am not good enough!", they say. According to me this is a trap. It can sometimes make a person feel like it is almost impossible to get out of this feeling. For most of us who feel we are not good enough, our... Continue Reading →
I Love You…and therefore….
Love is one of the most interesting phenomena in human existence. The more I try to understand this phenomenon, the more I realise its sheer beauty and endlessness. Love truly is limitless and immeasurable. However, in this post I wish to talk about an aspect of love that is measurable, very limited, and mostly unconscious... Continue Reading →
Little Things?
This is the account of Kent Nerburn. This was originally published in his book "Make me an Instrument of Your Peace." This post has been published online on http://www.zenmoments.org/the-cab-ride-ill-never-forget/ There was a time in my life twenty years ago when I was driving a cab for a living. It was a cowboy’s life, a gambler’s... Continue Reading →
The Carpenter
Once upon a time, two brothers who lived on adjoining farms fell into conflict. It was the first serious rift in 40 years of farming side-by-side, sharing machinery and trading labor and goods as needed without a hitch. Then the long collaboration fell apart. It began with a small misunderstanding and it grew into a major... Continue Reading →
The Boiling Frog Syndrome
Human Beings and Frogs are two creatures in nature who have a tremendous power to tolerate and adjust. This was a study conducted sometime in the early 1900's. However, there is a lot of debate regarding the authenticity of this study. Nonetheless, the theory is quite interesting and quite pertinent to human beings. Put a... Continue Reading →
Stuck and Helpless
Question : My sister is married and living away from home. But she isn't happy. She confides in me and tells me of all the difficulties that she faces with her husband and in-laws. She seems to be stuck and helpless. I also feel that she is not telling me many of the things that... Continue Reading →
The Birth Song
Here's another popular story from across the internet that has deeply touched my heart. There is a tribe in Africa where the date of birth of a child is not calculated from its birth, nor from when it was conceived, but from the day when the child was a thought in the spirit of its... Continue Reading →
Pushing my husband to change
Question : I am quite a spiritual person. I believe in the Mystical World of Metaphysics and have even transformed my own life with the help of the Universal Energies. My concern is that my husband does not believe in what I believe. I have tried a lot to impress upon him the beauty of the... Continue Reading →
In-Charge or In-Control
Let us first start with understanding these two phrases - 'Being in charge' & 'Being in control'. Let me make a reference to sports to get the meaning clear. "The Team Manager just announced that Coach Henry is no longer in charge of his team". This would imply that Coach Henry is no longer in... Continue Reading →
Confused about my marriage…
Question : I feel I am in an extremely draining marriage. My husband is NEVER there for me physically or emotionally. I feel there is hardly a marriage anymore between us anymore. But then he tells me that he still loves me, cares for me and can't live without me. I have also found him... Continue Reading →
Happiness – State of Being or Situational
I believe that every human is striving through every moment of his/her life seeking happiness. However, each of us defines happiness differently. What is happiness for one might not be happiness for another. Across our lives, we all identify special moments where we experience happiness. And these moments are special for us when put in... Continue Reading →
I am Willing
[This post is originally written by Elizabeth Gilbert, author of best-seller "Eat, Pray, Love". View her original post here] Dear Ones: This picture of me and Rayya was taken one year ago today. This picture was taken on the morning of our commitment ceremony — a day on which we bound our hearts to each... Continue Reading →
Just a Choice
What if everything that we did in our lives was just a choice? Neither right nor wrong. Just a choice. What if we were to look at everything that happened in our lives also as just choices that people made? Of course, we might not like certain choices that certain people made. Yes, we might... Continue Reading →
How can I accept that?
Question : I have gone through a very painful and traumatic period in my life. And I just can't seem to accept what I had to go through. The experience has crushed me from within. I have tried very hard to forgive the people involved and to let go of the past. But I have... Continue Reading →
Turning the Enemy into your Friend
(This post is an excerpt from the book - The Love Mindset (An Unconventional Guide to Healing and Happiness) written by Vironika Tugaleva. Know more about Vironika here.) I used to think that other people could hurt me. I used to think, also, that other people could save me. Alone with my own self, life was unbearable. There was always a voice... Continue Reading →
Children see, Children do
Question : My 8 year old son is absolutely hooked on to Video Games and Mobile Phone Gaming. Right from the time he wakes up he is thinking of his games. When I ask him to do his homework or study, he is just not able to concentrate because he is still thinking of his games.... Continue Reading →
Tolerate, Adjust & Compromise
I am writing this post especially in an Indian context, from the perspective of living life in an Indian society. But perhaps this might well apply to other societies too. As a society, India is a rich culture and has a rich heritage that is built on some beautiful values. The ancient Indians led spiritual... Continue Reading →
Life is Unfair
The greatest war that the land had ever witness was over - the war of Mahabharat. All the great warriors had ascended to higher realms. Each of them were in a reflective space and were looking back at their own lives. In one particular interaction between Krishna and Karna, Karna starts to say, "My mother... Continue Reading →
Are you a People-Pleaser?
Question : When I look back at my entire life, I know that I have always been very kind and generous. I have never hurt anybody. And if I knew that someone is upset because of me, I would not be able to sleep for days (until I do something to set it right). I... Continue Reading →
What you resist persists
This post is in an extension of my earlier post "Meeting the Dark". We resist the 'Dark' in us. And the simple reason we do that is because we all want to be accepted, celebrated and belong to the tribe. This is the deepest conditioning that every human is born with. And we would do... Continue Reading →
Meeting the ‘Dark’
This post is going to be metaphoric in nature. And so while you read this post, I would like you to think in symbolism. 'Light' and 'Dark' are symbolic words. They are not absolute. Many religions talk about Light and Dark in absolute terms. The popular belief is that 'dark' is evil and bad. However,... Continue Reading →
Difficult People
Question : There are some people I meet who somehow always pick up little things I might say and make it a big deal. It is always so much of stress to be in their presence. I never know when that person would pounce on me, when he/she would misunderstand me and 'put words in... Continue Reading →
The Violet Tree 