Question : I have gone through a lot in my life. I usually tend to get into a depressive mood very easily. Lot of my relatives and friends ask me to focus on the positive and focus on doing things that make me happy. They even tell me that being depressive is not spiritual. I... Continue Reading →
What you resist persists
This post is in an extension of my earlier post "Meeting the Dark". We resist the 'Dark' in us. And the simple reason we do that is because we all want to be accepted, celebrated and belong to the tribe. This is the deepest conditioning that every human is born with. And we would do... Continue Reading →
Is Tom & Jerry really for kids?
I loved Tom & Jerry like crazy when I was a kid. I probably didn't spare any opportunity to watch it on TV. My parents were very happy that Tom and Jerry kept me entertained when I was not at school. Till this day, I love Tom & Jerry and I can have a hearty laugh... Continue Reading →
The Life After
In a mother's womb were two babies. One asked the other: "Do you believe in life after delivery?" The other replied, "Why, of course. There has to be something after delivery. Maybe we are here to prepare ourselves for what we will be later." "Nonsense" said the first. "There is no life after delivery. What... Continue Reading →
Meeting the ‘Dark’
This post is going to be metaphoric in nature. And so while you read this post, I would like you to think in symbolism. 'Light' and 'Dark' are symbolic words. They are not absolute. Many religions talk about Light and Dark in absolute terms. The popular belief is that 'dark' is evil and bad. However,... Continue Reading →
Difficult People
Question : There are some people I meet who somehow always pick up little things I might say and make it a big deal. It is always so much of stress to be in their presence. I never know when that person would pounce on me, when he/she would misunderstand me and 'put words in... Continue Reading →
Compliments
I recently met a friend and the first thing I found myself telling her was "Wow, you've lost so much weight!". And pat came the reply, "Oh! I am tired of hearing so many versions of my weight. Some say I've lost weight...some say I've gained weight. I honestly do not care about these compliments... Continue Reading →
The Buddha’s wife
He left her in the middle of the night, the night their son was born. When she heard the news she was devastated. Yet, she did not complain. But her life lost all meaning. The only reason for her to live now was her son. She wanted him to grow up to be a man... Continue Reading →
Don’t we all?
I was parked in front of the mall wiping off my car. I had just come from the car wash and was waiting for my wife to get out of work. Coming my way from across the parking lot was what society would consider a bum. From the looks of him, he had no car,... Continue Reading →
Dependence or Support??
Question : I am a mother of 2 kids. I am currently going through a separation with my husband, after 12 years of marriage. I had given up my career when I chose to be a mother and was dependent on my husband for the last 12 years. It started out as financial dependency, but... Continue Reading →
I’ve got Thick Skin and an Elastic Heart
Of all the qualities a Human Mind can possess, I would rate compassion and resilience as among the most important of them all. Compassion Compassion is not kindness. Compassion is not forgiveness. Compassion is not pleasing-others. Compassion is not about being nice. Compassion is a much deeper quality where you understand the emotional state of... Continue Reading →
A story of Nothing
He had everything that a man could want, which in itself was a euphemism considering he was the King. He had a summer palace, a winter palace and many other palaces in between, the same could be said about his many wives. He had an army that could vanquish any enemy and a treasury that... Continue Reading →
Karmic Patterns and Therapy
Question : If all that is happening to us is Karma, then how can you resolve it and why would you want to resolve it? Are you trying to play God by being a therapist and trying to change things? Answer : Yes indeed, everything happening in our lives has a reason. And it is... Continue Reading →
Am I really lazy?
"Oh! I am a very lazy person..." I hear this from many people. Personally, I do not believe there is any mental condition called 'Laziness'. It is just a word that describes behaviour in a very flippant and judgmental manner. What might be happening inside the mind of a 'Lazy' person is a whole other... Continue Reading →
Self-Talk
"Gosh! I look sooo terrible in this dress!!" "Ugh! I'm so fat!!" "I hate my hair...actually I hate my nose and lips too..." "My skin is so bad. I'v even got ugly wrinkles all over!" "My tummy always embarrasses me!" "I can never look good in any pic!" "I look so old!" "I wish I... Continue Reading →
Procrastination vs Perfectionism
Procrastination and Perfectionism are two sides of the same coin! Both these phenomenon are largely subconscious. Therefore, it is sometimes difficult to detect procrastination and perfectionism in us. And it can get even more elusive to see the link between the two. Well, to put it simply, it can be very hard for us to... Continue Reading →
Hate is not the opposite of Love
We have often been taught that "I hate you" is the opposite of "I love you". So if you love someone you cannot hate them. And if you hate someone you cannot love them. Sadly, that's not always the case. As humans, we are very complex and sophisticated emotional beings. And very often we find ourselves... Continue Reading →
Daily Meditation
Question : What is meditation? What is the purpose of meditation? People tell me I need to meditate, but I don't think I could ever sit silently for long hours with my eyes closed. Answer : The answer to this question can have many different perspectives. Simply because 'meditation' itself is an extremely profound concept.... Continue Reading →
Tuning in to the Inner Voice
Question : When I go through life, I come across many dilemmas. I'm not sure at times, if what I'm doing is right or wrong. I try my best to listen to my 'Inner Voice', but it is exactly at these moments I feel I just can't hear my Inner Voice. So what do I... Continue Reading →
Getting past the Past
Question : There are some negative memories in my life that I just can't get over! The moment I think of it I seem to just spiral down into a negative state and it seems as if the rest of my day is just a total disaster. How do I get out of this state?... Continue Reading →
The Violet Tree 